Three Things You Need To Know In Order To Embrace Your Own Beauty

by - March 30, 2018

Good morning, pookies! Happy Good Friday and I hope you are feeling well, feeling joy and feeling peace this morning. Where I am in Louisiana, it's cloudless and the sun is bright and everything is super green.

I love it. It's nice and cool (though I know it won't last for long!) and it's like the Emerald City with the sunshine touching the dewy grass and makes everything feel better.

I've been thinking a lot about this blog and who's reading it and why I’m doing it. I love talking about makeup and skincare and I think the background to those two facets of this blog is self-care.

It's the root of it all. If you're getting all your makeup and putting effort into your skin just so that you can please other people or feel that it's the only way you're going to be beautiful, it's not going to be fun.

It's going to be painful and unrewarding. It's going to feel like a chore. It's going to tear you down; physically, mentally, spiritually.

It felt like that for me for a long time. Every day, I did my best to cover my imperfections, look as good as someone I saw on the internet and never thought about actually healing my skin because I deserved it, because I needed it just as anyone else.

I'm learning to embrace my own beauty. To know that no matter what, no matter what might happen to my outside, it's the inside that counts and it's what makes every single one of us beautiful or not.

Here's the three things you need to know in order to embrace your own beauty:

1. Know that comparison kills.

Spending so much time wondering to yourself if this is measuring up to another person's ideal is going to kill you. Whether figuratively or sometimes - tragically - literally. I have spent so much wasted time trying to live up to someone's standards of what or how I should be.

What college I should attend, what pursuits I should be working on, what life I should live.

How my entire body image should be.

It's poisonous. It ruins your thinking. We've got to step away from people's ideals of us, whether those people are extended family or friends, Youtubers or someone we saw on Instagram. It's the only way that we can say to ourselves, "I'm okay the way I am."

It's okay to study other people's techniques and learn so much from them, to admire Youtubers and Instagrammers but to put them up on such a pedestal that we feel that the only way we can be beautiful is to be just like them - that's the point that comparison comes in and kills.

2. Know that beauty is way more than your body image/skin type/skin color is.

You can meet up with the most beautiful woman in the world and be like, "Oh my gosh, that's the most beautiful woman in the world." But if she's abusive, obnoxious, rude and toxic - is she really that pretty?

We all know someone like that.

I'm going to tell you something that can change your entire perspective about your own beauty:

If you have a smile on your face and love in your heart, you have more beauty than your peers, than anyone on the internet, than anyone in Hollywood. 
You don't know how valuable your love is in this sad and messed up world.

I've been learning so much about reaching out in love to everyone, just in this past week.

I picture a tree with branches reaching out to everything and everyone: the earth, ourselves, the sky, the stars, heaven itself.

I want to be like that tree.

3. Know that everybody has their own outside beauty - and you rock your own.

I'm pretty active on Instagram and I follow a lot of makeup artists and makeup enthusiasts so I see their selfies nearly every day. I follow women of various colors, body types, face types and you know what?

I have never seen one ugly woman on there.

I have never seen an ugly woman on Instagram.

They all look so different and yet all of them are dynamically beautiful because they are not afraid of posting themselves the way that they are.

And we can do that too. We can know that the way we look is already supremely beautiful. Makeup or not, plus size or petite, all colors and hair types.

We can look at ourselves in the mirror and say, "Because I'm alive, I'm here on earth…I'm special and beautiful just because."

        And then we can put on our makeup because it's the artful, exciting, fun thing to do because we don't have to change ourselves, but we can make real-life art on our real-life artful selves.

You're so much more than other people's perceptions or your own perceptions. You're a multi-faceted human being with a heart and a mind and a soul that's more powerful than you think.

Let's fill up with love and embrace our beauty.

How are you embracing your own beauty? What are the challenges facing you? Let me know in the comments and I'd love to get in touch with you. Be sure to subscribe for paper airplane blog posts in your inbox and feel free to contact me in any way that you'd like, whether that's Instagram, Twitter or my contact page.

Have a wonderful weekend, beautiful. Happy Easter and I'll see you on Monday.


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